Sexuality and sexual preference is not a choice. Sexual preference is a learned behavior whether you are gay or straight. No, there isn't a class and a textbook. It is learned as a part of your life experience interacting with your enviroment from the day you are born, just like the rest of your personality. People are complex and you can't find an easy answer for why we do what we do.
The only choice involved is deciding to be the person you are or respressing it to better fit into a societal norm.
I find it ridiculous that the US, a country that holds personal freedoms and liberties as one of our highest ideals, has an issue with granting two people the right to say 'we are a family'.
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George Takei's campaign may wage some colorful battles, but methinks it could mislead the pro-GLBT war. Takei says he wants his voice to be "authentic", but, on some levels, he patronizes the listener.
In many of his interviews, including the above, Takei says "It's normal for two people who love each other and who take responsibility for each other and care for each other to be married". Actually, the institute of marriage was invented by Church and Crown to create incentive and perks for citizens to make babies, thereby increasing the supply of tithers and taxpayers. That's how the "a man and a woman" proviso got into the fine print. Marriage is first and foremost designed for systematic procreation, not proclamation of mutual love.
Those marriage incentives and perks often include tax breaks and insurance benefits. Perhaps it's just a matter of time before same-sex heterosexual roommates get legally "married" just to hop through economic loopholes. It's human nature to play an advantage, e.g. some opposite-sex couples make babies just to warrant a fatter welfare income (albeit those offspring grow up to become tithers and taxpayers to the social system.)
It's great when consenting adults get together to satisfy each other. It can be even better when we're responsibly sincere about big issues.
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Umm.. actually, marriage started as a legal concept to transfer property. It wasn't until the 12th century that the church got involved, and then it was really to promote the man/woman thing as a sort of absolution from original sin.
Today, marriage is nothing but a legal contract between two people to share property and wealth. WEDDINGS somewhat are governed by churches, if you choose to have one involved.
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If you can't be who you are, why be anything at all?
~Charles Pierce
Greetings "I Hate Klingons",
I'm not going to assume you're a bigot or hate gays or whatnot unless you outright state that or have displayed some history of that that I'm unawares of.
I ask you to consider that I have no agenda, I'm not homosexual, and that I would like to at least try to present how I see it, to you, for your consideration.
I think your view that homosexuality is at least partially a choice is very common, and that it's based on a common tool we use to reach understanding: _personal experience_.
I submit that you might consider that your reaction is based on the assessment of your -own- sexuality.
Which is, as it happens, also the majority sexuality.
_personal experience_ however is not always the best source material to base a conclusion on, because sometimes peoples personal experiences are different.
Particularly this is so when the people involved are vastly different in nature.
id est. Many people vehemently believe and argue that homosexuality is "a choice"
why?
how can they say this with such strength of authority?
The "dirty-secret" (that is neither dirty, nor a secret, save by those who perceive it so) is that it is because they know that they have (as have most humans at some point in their life believe it or not) considered sex with someone of their own gender.
_personal experience_ and introspection is the reason why many heterosexuals are so sure it's "a choice".
Some religious people frame it as "evil lust" ergo something to be fought, hence the source of their condemnation.
But Again, they are sure this is so, -because- the occasional homosexual urge is something they have themselves fought.
While the perhaps more analytical heterosexual (the psychologist or the introspective) considers it or might frame it simply as "normal sexual curiousity".
But here's the rub: that above, the occasional homosexual thought had by the religious and indeed by the majority of people at some point in their life, is NOT homosexuality.
I say again, that is NOT homosexuality.
*You* can resist same-gender sex precisely because you're not homosexual by nature.
I think many have confused the two.
What the typical heterosexual experiences, the resisting of the _occasional_ homosexual urge, has been erroneously paralleled by many heterosexuals with _actual_ homosexuality.
Homosexuals cannot "resist" their nature.
..it's _pervasive_, it's non-stop, not an occasional background thought.
Consider instead: Homosexuals see the same gender in _precisely_ the same way you/we see the -opposite- gender.
The Point:
To tell a homosexual it's a "choice" simply because it is for _you_ and me, would be 100% precisely the same as someone telling you, that your heterosexuality is a choice.
^Raise-Eyebrow.
Now add into the equation that some people will always tell you that your heterosexuality is shameful? to be hidden? not to be spoken of aloud? is therefore un-equal.
and we can begin to understand how they feel when such statements as "it's a choice" are made.
I submit there's no conspiracy, they're not lying, they're just as you are, just as we all are, they simply have a different sexual preference in their wiring.
Finally, imagine if you will, the world inverted, or, another world inverted.
(as you're well awares Roddenberry has oft done to tell a story about man - from a safe distance - and as SF at its best frequently does imo)
..imagine _you're_ transported to this planet, were you are initially well received as an honoured guest, but once they discover you're heterosexual, you're shunned, you're told that your heterosexuality is:
1. a choice
2. is shameful
3. should be hidden or not spoken of
and finally,
4. that your inability to resist your heterosexuality and desire for the opposite sex, proved you were succumbing to evil human urges, that you are in some way weak or "giving in" to a lustful "choice".
Now consider that this is what it is like here..
(or at least in those sections of the planet, that try to exclude homosexuals the liberties afforded everyone else)
..that this is what it is like every day, for homosexuals at this point in time, _on Earth_.
That's Not Sci-Fi.
That's their reality right here on this planet.
I think, Empathy is called for.
and I would submit that Star Trek is an appropriate vehicle for shining a light on that, as it has historically always tried to illuminate the human condition.
Anyway, the above submitted for your consideration.
Michael X.
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I appresiate the thoughtful feedback. And it is all very intriuging. I didn't mean to step on so many toes. I agree that most decisions are based on experience. However, with this matter, I think I've seen too many statistical facts that would suggest that it has nothing to do with DNA. For example, did you know that a man is three to four times more likely to be gay if he has an older brother? Or that surveys in America's top twelve major cities indicate a gay population of 9%, whereas in rural areas only 1%. What would either of those things have to do with genetic makeup? I think just like any other sexual desire and preference (i.e. something that turns on one guy may be a total turn off for someone else) it is part of our personality makeup, which is largely based on our experiences and our environment.
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DNA doesn't really matter. It's a persons soul where their love and passion lie. I personally know several twins where one is gay, and the other is straight.
Environmental experiences have nothing to do with it either. You'll find people from all walks of life and backgrounds who are gay.
You city/rural statistics are kinda bunk. Growing up in the sticks myself, there are just as many "gays-per-capita" as anywhere else. It's just that those environments tend to be much more homophobic than cities, meaning more people living in the closet and denying their nature.
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I think I've seen too many statistical facts that would suggest that it has nothing to do with DNA. For example, did you know that a man is three to four times more likely to be gay if he has an older brother? Or that surveys in America's top twelve major cities indicate a gay population of 9%, whereas in rural areas only 1%
Those kind of studies might be registering a trigger factor that gates an underlying trait which could exist in all males. That same underlying trait might also account for why even heterosexual men may experience homosexual fantasies, and why homophobia can be such a strong emotional (irrational) response.
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I only said I don't think it's fair when gays compare themselves to people who have fought REAL battles for civil liberties. When was the last time any of you gay people were a slave!? Or had to use a seperate bathroom!? I think it is ridiculous that everyone suddenly responds saying I hate and I should hunt witches. Where did I say anything hateful? I'm sorry that I don't think the struggles of some gays can compare to that as portrayed in "Roots". (Though Kunta Kinte is fabulous!) I only stated an opinion, and if the best you can do is call me a hate-monger and libel me you will never win freedom, because guess what? MOST OF THE NATION AGREES WITH ME! If you can't learn to engage them in the rational arena of ideas, and just call them names, then you are as bad as the people that truly hate you.
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Most of us were reacting to your little soap box about "gay" being a choice. Read what you wrote.
Nobody here is advocating that the gay community has it as bad as black americans did back in the day. You're the only one here making that connection.
Most of the nation agrees with you? Read a newspaper. Right now, just about every poll puts this debate at an even 50/50 split. But why check facts when you can just make 'em up?
The truth is, just because we aren't being treated as badly as other discriminated-against groups (something you might want to ask Matthew Shepard's family about) doesn't mean that you people have the right to keep on treating us like sh!t in any capacity. What's wrong is wrong. Don't try to quantify it.
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"A billion robot lives are about to be extinguished! Oh, the Jedis are going to feel this one..."
-Hubert Farnsworth (Futurama: Crimes of the Hot)
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"The Andorian Mining Consortium runs from no one!"
-Shran (ENT: Proving Ground)
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You are right gays have never been slaves... but neither have Women as a group been slaves and yet they have faught for rights.
Gay are fighting discrimination as well. Discrimination in the workplace in buying homes in having children in adopting children. We are also fighting for a time when gays can walk down ANY street and not have to worry whether or not some bigotted creepy is going to beat them or kill them just be cause he is a "Faggot"
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You're the only one who can hold your head up high,
Shake your fists at the gates saying:
"I have come home now!
Fetch me the spirit, the son, and the father.
Tell them their pillar of faith has ascended.
It's time now!
My time now!
Give me my, give me my wings!"
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Gay are fighting discrimination as well.
Recognizing women's equality, or racial equality, doesn't conflict with the biological imperatives of our two-sexed species, nor could it compromise population tax revenues which sustain existing social infrastructure.
Even if it were heterosexual in basis, institutionalized same-sex conjugality presents long-term liability on both of those grounds. Some same-sex "rights" demand that a breeder society act against some of its survival instincts.
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First if all, I love George Takei, and I love Sulu. I'm sorry though, the whole gay issue has nothing to do with civil rights. I'm sick and tired of gays comparing themselves to people fighting for racial equality. No one ever made a decision to be black, therefore, civil liberty. No matter what people say, people make a decision to be gay, albeit a decision strongly influenced by their circumstances, but a decision, therefore, not a civil liberty. And why does he have to use Star Trek as his bully pulpit?
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So Why don't you tell us all when you had that great point in your life where you said to your self "Ok I could have sex with men or women, be gay or straight. Yeah I think i'll be striaght"
Did that ever happen or do gays only make the choice? Please explain this to me... cause I am gay and i didn't get a choice... So did i sleep through a big Choosing Ceramony?
Also You never answered my Previous Question on if you think Religion is not grounds for "Civil Liberties" Because it is a Choice.
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You're the only one who can hold your head up high,
Shake your fists at the gates saying:
"I have come home now!
Fetch me the spirit, the son, and the father.
Tell them their pillar of faith has ascended.
It's time now!
My time now!
Give me my, give me my wings!"
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Ok nimwit... EVEN if Homosexuality WAS a choice... and it is not. I should know I am gay and I didn't choose it.
But Religion is a choice and it is protected by Civil rights so... Does that mean a person should be able to be denied rights because of Religion?
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You're the only one who can hold your head up high,
Shake your fists at the gates saying:
"I have come home now!
Fetch me the spirit, the son, and the father.
Tell them their pillar of faith has ascended.
It's time now!
My time now!
Give me my, give me my wings!"
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So, you must be gay yourself, 'cuz you know what it's all about, don't you?
You seem to hate much more than Klingons.
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"A billion robot lives are about to be extinguished! Oh, the Jedis are going to feel this one..."
-Hubert Farnsworth (Futurama: Crimes of the Hot)
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"The Andorian Mining Consortium runs from no one!"
-Shran (ENT: Proving Ground)
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Even if that were so (and it isn't), what possible reason is there to stop consenting adults from engaging in such activities?
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Dig deep piles of rubble and ruins
Towering overhead both far and wide
There's unknown tools for World War III
Einstein said 'We'll use rocks on the other side'
No survivors!
Great to see a Trek alum fighting for civil rights, very fitting.
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Dig deep piles of rubble and ruins
Towering overhead both far and wide
There's unknown tools for World War III
Einstein said 'We'll use rocks on the other side'
No survivors!
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But...but...this WILL make Star Trek look like it's Gay!
(I typed 'will' in capital letters so you know it's true)
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But Star Trek *is* gay. Star Wars and BSG TOS are the straight man's sci-fi - guns, balls and no brains, not like that pussy-ass Star Trek, always trying to be peaceful and showing people's emotions, hell it even treated niggers as equals back in the 60s before this fuckin' PC bullshit took over TV. *spits*
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Dig deep piles of rubble and ruins
Towering overhead both far and wide
There's unknown tools for World War III
Einstein said 'We'll use rocks on the other side'
No survivors!
Trek is at its core about the mutual-acceptance of and co-habitation between all cultures, ergo: Well Done Mr. Takei!
However, for your edification, if I ever hear,
"Yes Captain Sir *pause* OoooOooo nice Valentino Garavani ensemble Sir! and is that Lancome Juicy Rouge?"
..on Future Star Trek, and I don't see you standing up and saying "uh, that's going a bit too far people" I'm warning you George, I shall track you down, shave your genitals with a phaser and dip them in Romulan ale.
Until then and Otherwise, More Power To You Mr. Takei.
Michael X.
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Bleh... Star Trek doesn't really need to be associated with this. Star Trek already has the stigma of being nerdy, and now people will probably think that it's "gay" as well.
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See there ya go you disproved it yer self... not just nerds and gays are interested in Star Trek topics but narrow minded nitwits do to!
Look broadening the horizions already!
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You're the only one who can hold your head up high,
Shake your fists at the gates saying:
"I have come home now!
Fetch me the spirit, the son, and the father.
Tell them their pillar of faith has ascended.
It's time now!
My time now!
Give me my, give me my wings!"
You are an inspiration to our community. Keep up the good fight, and others will follow.
I too am tired of all this waiting in the wings.
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"A billion robot lives are about to be extinguished! Oh, the Jedis are going to feel this one..."
-Hubert Farnsworth (Futurama: Crimes of the Hot)
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"The Andorian Mining Consortium runs from no one!"
-Shran (ENT: Proving Ground)
Keep it up. :)
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The autumn days swung soft around me, like cotton on
my skin. But as the embers of the summer lost their
breath and disappeared, my heart went cold, and
only hollow rhythms resounded from within.